Finding the Core Values

Yesterday, I attended a training/seminar on Finding the Core Values here in SBMA. I signed up to attend the seminar expecting something to be learned, meet new people and interact with them, and of course, to satisfy my curiosity what Finding the Core Values seminar has to offer.

It was a wonderful seminar, in the sense that I did not learn anything new, but I was reminded of what I may have forgotten. It was all about setting or choosing priorities in life and defining what is really a man’s core or center, or what is the “thing” or “reason”, or where one’s life is focused or evolves.

I am not going to discuss here every topic we had at the seminar, but let me share what may interest you, as my reader, most.

It’s about the difference of “Response” and “Reaction.”

All of us experience different events or incidents in our everyday life and do something about it. We meet different people with different characters and behaviors, some may be very nice, but some are not. The questions I’d like you to ask you are, how do you go about it? What would you do, if you met a nice person or a not so nice person? What would you do if someone punched you? What would you do if you see a banana peel lying on the sidewalk?

Would you react? Or would you respond?

Let me shed you a light in differentiating the two.

Reaction is simply doing or repeating what was done unto you. Let me use the banana peel as an example.

What would you do if you see a banana peel lying on the sidewalk?

If you choose to react in this situation, you would simply ignore it. And maybe say, “why would I bother to pick it up and throw it in a trash can? I didn’t even know who threw it on the sidewalk!” Or you may ignore it again and wait to see someone slip upon stepping on it.

Reaction is a (-)negative deed to a negative situation. For instance, if someone happen to accidentally hit your face with an elbow while fighting on a rebound on a basketball game, and you chose to react, you’ll probably retaliate to the guy and hit him back. To make things easier to understand, a Reaction is the sum of a negative (-) feeling and a negative (-) action.

(-)Feeling + (-)Action = Reaction

However, a Response is totally different. Using again the banana peel example and choosing to respond to the situation, you may have picked the peel and dispose of it properly keeping in mind that it may cause an accident and cost somebody their limbs (broken) or may cost them their lives, if they slip and hit their heads on the deck.

Or you may just let the guy that accidentally hit you with an elbow on the face to explain how it became an accident. He’ll probably say he’s sorry of you just let him explain it and if you chose to just talk about it instead of retaliating. So, a Response is the sum of a negative (-) feeling and a positive (+) action.

(-)Feeling + (+)Action = Response

Another good example is Manny Pacquiao, the world’s best pound-for-pound champion. He grew up in poverty, his parents separated at young age because his mother found out that his father was seeing another woman. He didn’t have the privileges of a kid living an average life because they are poor. He even had to give up high school because of extreme poverty.

What choice did he make? Did he React? Or, did he respond to the situation?

At age 14, he left his home to help his mother, who had 6 children and who was not making enough money to support her family. Manny found a skill in the sport of boxing and trained and honed the skill in the hopes of it being of help to someday support his mother raise their family. And what happened? He became very successful. He’s now the first boxer in history to win 7 World Titles in 7 different weight divisions. In addition, he is the only boxer to win the lineal championship in four different weight classes. For his achievements, Pacquiao was named the 2000-2009 “Fighter of the Decade” by the Boxing Writers Association of America. Aside from being a boxer, Pacquiao has participated in politics, acting, and music recording.

Here’s some of his recognitions he recieved:

  • 2000-09 Boxing Writers Association Of America Fighter of the Decade
  • 2000-09 Philippine Sportswriters Association Athlete of the Decade
  • 2000-09 HBO Fighter of the Decade
  • 2000-09 The SweetScience.com Fighter of the Decade
  • 2006, 2008 and 2009 The Ring Fighter of the Year
  • 2006, 2008 and 2009 Boxing Writers Association Of America Fighter of the Year
  • 2006 and 2008 SecondsOut.com Fighter of the Year
  • 2008 and 2009 The Ring No. 1 Pound-for-Pound (year-end)
  • 5-Time PSA Sportsman of the Year
  • 2008 University Athletic Association of the Philippines (UAAP) Honorary Award for Sports Excellence
  • 2008 and 2009 BoxingScene.com Fighter of the Year
  • 2008 Sports Illustrated Boxer of the Year
  • 2008 and 2009 TheSweetScience.com Boxer of the Year
  • 2008 and 2009 WBC Boxer of the Year
  • 2008 Yahoo Sports Fighter of the Year
  • 2008 and 2009 ESPN Star’s Champion of Champions
  • 2009 ESPN Fighter of the Year
  • 2009 ESPN Knockout of the Year
  • 2009 ESPY Awards Best Fighter
  • 2009 TIME 100 Most Influential People (Heroes & Icons Category)
  • 2009 TIME Asia Magazine cover for November 16, 2009 Issue
  • 2009 Forbes Magazine Celebrity 100 (ranked 57th)
  • 2009 Sports Illustrated Fighter of the Year
  • 2009 The Ring Magazine Knockout of the Year
  • 2009 World’s Greatest Ever Featherweight
  • 2009 World’s Greatest Ever (ranked 2nd)

What’s behind Manny Pacquiao’s success was the decision he made, he “Responded” to the situation. He embraced the fact that if he will not respond, he and his family will drown in poverty.

If he chose to react, he may had been drowned by poverty and self-pity would have consumed him. He made the right choice.

Another good example is Nick Vujicic. He is limbless. Imagine life without limbs. This may be the greatest test in Nick’s life. How would someone go from place to place if he doesn’t have his feet and legs? How would a person stand from a fall if he doesn’t have any limbs at all?

All these translates to anyone’s life. Struggles, hardships, failure, and etc. would you react? Or, would you respond?

One such hardship was not being able to attend a mainstream school because of his physical disability, as the law of Australia required, even though he was not mentally impaired. During his schooling, the laws were changed, and Nick was one of the first disabled students to be migrated to a mainstream school. He learned to write using the two toes on his left “foot”, and a special device that slid onto his big toe to grip. He also learned to use a computer and type using the “heel and toe” method (as demonstrated in his speeches). He can also throw tennis balls, and answer the phone (also demonstrated in speeches).

Being bullied at his school, Nick grew extremely depressed, and by the age of eight, started contemplating suicide. After begging God to grow arms and legs, Nick eventually began to realize that his accomplishments were inspirational to many, and began to thank God he was alive. When he was seventeen, he started to give talks at his prayer group, and eventually starting his non-profit organization, Life Without Limbs.

Nick graduated from college at the age of 21, and began his travels as a motivational speaker, focusing on the topics that today’s teenagers face. He also speaks in the corporate sector, however his aim is to become an international inspirational speaker, in both Christian and non-Christian venues. He regularly travels internationally to speak to Christian congregations. By the age of 25 he hopes to become financially independent, however he wishes to promote his words through shows like The Oprah Winfrey Show, as well as writing books. His first book, planned for completion by the end of 2007, is to be called ‘No Arms, No Legs, No Worries!’

In the meantime, there is a DVD available “Life Without Limbs”. Most of the DVD was filmed in 2005, featuring a brief documentary about his home life, and how he does regular things without limbs. The second part of the DVD was filmed at his local church in Brisbane, and was one of his first professional motivational speeches.

I really hope that you like this post and don’t hesitate to share your thoughts on this.

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